
September 3rd, 2011, 01:18 AM
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the role of parents.......
What I feel it’s a desire of every parent while going forward they want to provide that environment to which his/her child gets the good education. But some parents is that who don’t have much time due to that they don’t proper guidance to their children. I like to think of it as an overall way of being as a parent. It is a way of interacting with your family that promotes learning and teaching over correction and coercion. A positive parent looks at a child in terms of their strengths, what they can do (rather than focusing on what they can't) and works to enhance these qualities.
Positive parents discipline; they don't punish. Here is the difference:
Punishment is punitive, it seeks to "punish" a bad behavior and in so doing, it places the focus on the negative, undesirable action.
Discipline on the other hand, can be quite positive. Although we tend to use the terms discipline and punishment interchangeably, they are actually quite different.
"To discipline means to instruct a person to follow a particular code of conduct or order. In the field of child development, discipline refers to methods of modeling character and of teaching self-control and acceptable behavior, for example, teaching a child to wash her/his hands before meals. Here, washing hands before meals is a particular pattern of behavior, and the child is being disciplined to adopt that pattern." Many of us parent on autopilot (so to speak). We do things the way that our parents did them. Unless something is seriously not working, we don't typically take the time to step back and reevaluate the "why" in our parenting. The problem with punishment though, is that at its core, it is about control. When we punish, we want to control our children and their behavior. The issue is (besides any potential moral objections) that we can never truly have control over anyone. That's right, I'll say it again, we can never have control over anyone, even ourselves. Think about it, if we really had complete control of our own behavior, we would all eat well all of the time, exercise regularly and never slip up and say something that we wish we hadn't.
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