Oh no, Why do we get them in here

I know but I am a complete beginner. I placed a freebsd disc in my drive today and loaded it up. I have done nothing other than that. I did this as I was told I would be getting help from an expert user who has now gone abroad on business on short notice. My immediate problem is.
1. What am I meant to do other than log in to a blank screen.
2. I need to enable SSH ( the person concerned has told me he can do what he promised remotely ), I tried to SSH the thing from a windows machine using putty but it fails. Any ideas on this would be more than welcome.

I have cruised the BSD boards, but I dont understand most of it if not all of it, and I cant find any help on getting it to work. I have NO knowledge of the commands, well I do know a couple but nothing most would call usefull. ( my favourite command at this momment is a dos floppy and fdisk )

If you could help me I would be most gratefull.
I understand this is not the acceptable thing to do but I dont care so anyone who wants to try ssh on this feel free.
the ip is 81.153.235.132 and the root is just that and the password is medion ( I know, its asking to be abused - but needs must ) port 22 is forwarded so its not that.
Thanks
Xan

Edit the /etc/rc.conf and add this:
sshd_enable="YES"

Edit the /etc/ssh/sshd_config
change this line:
#PermitRootLogin no
with this line
PermitRootLogin yes

Now start the ssh server:
/etc/rc.d/sshd start

don't forget to change the password