vsftpd monitoring and pure-ftpd questions

hi, is there anyway to monitor vstpd connections to my computer? like a utility like ftpwho? Also how would i kick off current users connected to my server. I was going to goto Pure-ftpd, but i get this problem when i try testing my server. It connects fine and log in fine, but when i type in dir, or ls, it just hangs when it says " entering passive mode"
i've set the parameteres with -p 5000:5999 , and its setup in my router (hence why vsftpd works). I even tryed -P 192.168.1.103 but it wont work. Im using xinetd to run pureftpd. vsftpd work perfectly with passive, but i cant monitor connections, on whos downloading/uploading what. Thanks for your help.